Thanks to Samineh I. Shaheem for this timely advice…
“It’s important to remind yourself to regularly engage in psychological life audits. By doing this, you can better understand your physical and emotional needs in order to prevent illnesses rather than having to worry about ways of later curing the tribulations of modern living.
These steps below can be used as a starting point to consider aspects of your life which might need to be fine-tuned as well as some suggestions as possible solutions to those feeling stuck and stagnant:
• If thinking about something/someone hurts, it’s probably because it requires your attention. Repressing it just to temporarily stop the pain is not going to make it go away.
• Think about all those people who have contributed positively to your life. Now compare the way in which you’ve shown your appreciation. Remember it is never too late to do so.
• If you have a physical or emotional pain of some kind, even if its not constant and just comes and goes, seek the help of a medical professional to try and sort it out once and for all. Waiting for it to disappear might just lead to a more serious ailment.
• Make sure you have a healthy balance between guilt and resentment. Being a constant people pleaser can lead to disappointment and anger. At the same time always gauge your own expectations from others.
• Don’t just talk about all those things you would love to do – do them. What’s stopping you?
• See the best in others and appreciate them instead of clawing away at their flaws just to feed your own insecurity.
• Rest. More important than any other activity today, we need to rest since our well-being is dependent on the restoration that takes place while we chillax.
• Avoid feeling fragmented. Think about ways in which you are stretching yourself too far, sometimes even breaking into different pieces. Try and regroup so you feel healthy and whole.
• Burn bridges where necessary. Staying in touch or trying to constantly resurrect a dead relationship may do more harm than good.
• Learn from your past mistakes and try to eliminate repeating the same negative patterns.
• Assess the amount of time you spend on the Internet. Turn some of that virtual interaction into real interaction instead.
• Try and take some time off from work. You could either take a vacation or a ‘staycation’ meaning those who vacation at home either by choice or due to financial restraints.
• Celebrate your achievements regularly – never down play them or underestimate yourself.
• Remain aligned with the truth. The further you stray, the more confused and complicated life will seem.
• Happiness is not always an adjective nor is it a constant state so you need not ask yourself whether you are a ‘happy person’ or not. Instead praise and welcome happy moments.
• Don’t let the past define you but do remain mindful of the defining moments that have shaped your life.”